JoUrnAl

What you want from me: sex What I want from you: sex This is hook-up culture.  I have explained:  Transactional and conditional relationships fail.  Agreements must be made so everyone is on the same page.  We agreed we want to meet for sex.  Now you have asked that before we meet for sex, requiring one of us to travel to the other, that we must both travel to meet not for sex but for you to decide if you want to meet for sex.  You have gone back a step.  You are expecting me to go out of my way and pay extra expenses which there will be no guarantee of sex for.  I have explained to you this is exactly why I split up with my ex.  I have explained to you this is what is meant by transactional and conditional relationships.  I have explained to you that is not what I am looking for.  It is a control game.  You have changed the conditions.  You have changed the goalposts.  I can not spell it out ...

  A long, elaborate answer to a beautiful topic.  “How often do you have sex? How many people have you had sex with?”  Not nearly as many as I would have liked and not nearly as often as I would have liked.  I would prefer one regularly partner forever than more than one more rarely.  I didn’t have regular monogamy even though I repeatedly tried for it. So instead I had serial monogamy which is the same as occasional polygamy.  I don’t think this makes me promiscuous given how I wasn’t having a lot of different people within a short time period. Although as I get older what ‘a short time period’ means had changed from days to weeks to months to years.  Only twice have I had two girls on the same day and now I don’t get one girl in two years. I know men and women who at one time were going as many as five a day regularly. That’s how I judge promiscuity and I am not that.  What’s my opinion on it now? I don’t care any more. The mistake I made in the...